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How to Engage and Flow in your Communication with a Woman

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“Communication is like dancing a waltz: one leads and the other follows. The communication  flows effortlessly”.

In one of my seminars a man told me, “I have been going out on dates with women, but it seems that the communication doesn’t go anywhere.”

I advised men that if they want to power up their masculine energy, they should take charge and lead when they communicate with women.  Here are two examples I have experienced with men:

Example 1 (I was at the gym, and “Mr. O” approached me.)
Mr O:  Hello, how are you?
Me:  I am doing well, thanks for asking. How are you?
Mr O:  Good! I always see you working out. You inspire me.
Me: I take that as a compliment, thank you!
Mr O:  Nice talking to you. Have a good workout.
Me:  Thanks, you too.

Example 2 (I arrived at a Singles event, when “Mr. B” spotted me and walked toward me to introduce himself.)
Mr B:  I am Mr B., and you are?
Me:  I am Marcia, pleasure meeting you.
Mr B:  I hear you have a cute accent. Where are you from?
Me:  Thanks for the compliment! I am from Ecuador.
Mr B:  People from Ecuador are very friendly, and it is a beautiful country.
Me:  Yes, we are friendly people. Have you been to Ecuador?
Mr B:  No, but I have read about it, seen pictures, and I have good friends from Ecuador.

The conversation with Mr. O didn’t go anywhere. He never asked me personal or specific questions. However, the conversation with Mr. B continued and flowed easily, and we had the opportunity to get to know about each other. He kept leading the conversation and asking me personal questions. We ended up going out a few times.
Men remember, if you are interested in a romantic relationship with a woman, take charge of leading the conversation. Ask specific questions you want to know about the woman, such as, “Did you do anything fun over the weekend?”  (not “How was your weekend?”) and engage her in the conversation.

 

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7 Facts About Women

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1.  Desire status and family
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2.  Need her problems to be hear
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3.   Multitask
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4.  Require to be cherished
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5.  Learn experientially
Woman-Listening
6. Fall in love with their ears
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7.  Find out what they want knowing
what they don’t want

7 Facts About Men

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1.  Want to conquer, gain power and success
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2.  Solve problems
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3.  Focus in one result at the time
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4.  Want to be respected
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5.  Learn logically
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6.  Fall in love with their eyes
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7.  Want specifically

Have You Ever Been Misunderstood by Your Partner?

 

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How many times have you gotten frustrated with your man, because he doesn’t understand what you want.  You get impatient and emotional.

Here some tips that will help you to communicate effectively and ask for what you want:

  1. Get clear on what you want to ask.  Women find out what they want by knowing what they don’t want.
  2. Be direct and ask for what you want. He might say yes or no to your request.
  3. Listen to his response. He will be more connected to you when you are listening.
  4. Don’t react to an answer you don’t want to hear.
  5. Negotiate with words until you both agree to something mutually beneficial.
  6. State how you feel about the decision or solution. “I feel sad because”… or “I feel happy because …”

Remember, communication is very important in a relationship.  It helps by creating a connection between partners. It enables you to share ideas, interests, support each other and negotiate each other’s wants and needs. Good communication actually helps in building a proper understanding in the relationship.

4 Reasons Why Men Pull Away From Women

Why-men-pull-awayI interviewed about 20 men, single and married. I asked them what it is that they want more from their partners. Their answer was “space.” Why? Because they felt suffocated by their partners.

According to the experts, it is common for a man to pull away after being deeply connected to a woman. This is actually healthy. The space allows him to reconnect with himself.  So, the more space he has to pull away, the faster he can bounce back, and the more excited and ready he can be to spend time with his partner.

Here the reasons men pull away:

  1. Men need to regain their sense of self with the “me” state.
  2. Men need to re-energized
  3. Men desire autonomy and independence. This is part of what makes them men!
  4. Men need time to process their feelings when they are falling in love with a woman

Remember, a man is likely to approach you, ready for more love, if you can respect his “time away.”

 

Online Dating Etiquette for Men

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Being single and exposed to online dating, I have experienced some awkward situations. These experiences inspired me to share some suggestions that will help men  have a better connection with women.

Dating Profile
Be honest in your profile about who you are, your age, and what kind of relationship you are looking for.  Are you looking for a woman to have a committed relationship with, or just to play?

Photos
Photos are powerful, and first impressions count! You can have as many as you want, but have at least one good current close-up picture as your primary image.

Messaging
When sending a message to the woman you are interested in, introduce yourself and be direct. Say hello and compliment her on whatever you are attracted to about her.  Let her know you are interested in getting to know more about her because you have read her profile and have things in common…..etc. Invite her to read your profile.  Avoid using  short phrases like, “Hello!  How is your day going?” or  “I like you! Hi”!  Using these phrases sounds as if you are not serious in connecting with a woman.

Connection
When you get a response back from her, don’t spend too much time emailing back and forth.  Ask her for her phone number to talk to her. This will help you determine whether there is a connection between you, or not. Without a phone conversation early on, you may start to fall for someone who is really not a match for you, and you both will be disappointed and feel you’ve wasted your time.

Call Her
If you have asked for the phone number, CALL HER (keeping your promise to call shows what kind of person you are).  This is your opportunity to connect and find out more about her. Do you feel the chemistry in your energy exchange? Ask her for a date and what her availability is.

Choose the place you want to meet with her
Be in charge of choosing a public place to meet with her, as long as she is comfortable with that.  If something should require you to cancel the date, call her and let her know in advance. Re-schedule the date.  Be on time; it shows consideration for her and her time.

Enjoy your Date
If there is a chemistry connection between you and you want to see her again, let her know during, or at the end of the date. If no connection is felt, be honest and tell her it was a pleasure meeting her, but you are not experiencing the match you are looking for.

Say good-bye
Regardless of the outcome, walk her to the car, or make sure she gets safely to her car. This shows you are a gentleman.

He is simpler than you are

Simple -ManDo you get frustrated because he is not like you? Why does he do things differently than you? It may seem as if he is doing it on purpose to make your life difficult. Yet likely, your man is not trying to drive you crazy. He is different from you and he is a SIMPLE creature. His simplicity is a gift that you can benefit from if you accept him as he is.

Things to keep in mind dealing with your man:

1.    He doesn’t need the same level of emotional maintenance than you do.

2.    He communicates generally straight to the point. Short and concise.

3.    He is focus on what it needs to be done at the moment.

4.    He doesn’t analyze things as much as you do.

5.    He is spontaneous, he can really enjoy having fun at the moment.

6.    He doesn’t take things too seriously.

7.    He has a different sense of time than you do.

Keep the gifts to keep on giving

 

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Complement Feminine Energy with your Power-up Masculine Energy

self-help graphicTestosterone is the principal sex hormone in humans. Males produce 10 times more than females. This 10 times more produces a Masculine Energy naturally thrive control, conquer and compete. Testosterone also influences the masculine energy to make money, seek power and achieve prestige.

Ten Commandments of Masculine Energy

1.    Take ownership of your leadership and lead

2.    Make decisions for good or for worse

3.    Take action towards your wants and ideas

4.    Approach and pursue the woman you want

5.    Court her to win her heart

6.    Ask a woman about her feelings not her thoughts

7.    Cherish your woman’s feelings before your own

8.    Give generously  and protect her

9.    Maintain your commitments to the best of your ability

10.    Act in a disciplined manner, physically, mentally and emotionally

Is this romance or hook up?

Hooking upHooking up is a trend – a big trend that is growing and if we don’t seriously look at what is about, we will lose our values of what intimacy really means.   You have the power to choose whether or not to hook-up. Courtship, dating and romance aren’t dead they are alive and kicking but those who hook-up don’t value the traditions and process of finding love in the right places and the right way. Before you hook up think about the risks you are getting into.

1.    Hooking up requires neither commitment nor communication especially from men but time is showing that woman are accepting of this “NEW” connection.

2.    Sexual encounters are fun just without any romance or a future

3.    Multiple partners and encounters without intimate connection

4.    By nature Women get emotionally attached to a man and hooking up is not fulfilling this need

5.    Hook ups are irresponsible and tend to bring more freedom for men

6.    Hook-ups are often drug and alcohol induced so partner are impaired from knowing the dangers

7.    Long term affairs without a future of commitment

8.    Men and women are turning into narcissist people

9.    Not valuing your body might lead to sexually transmitted diseases

Stand up and shift this trend by saying NO to hook-ups. Maintain your standards of how you want to be treated by your partner. There still are ladies and gentlemen out there so don’t cut yourself short and accept something that is only fulfilling (maybe) during the encounter.


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